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He Imitated My Spirit

Wednesday, November 17th, 2010

conversion-storyWhen my oldest son Bryan was six years old, he asked me what it meant to worship God in spirit and in truth. I tried to explain it, but I was having trouble putting it into words. So I told him to watch me as I sang in spirit and in truth. My children and I started singing a praise song, and Bryan looked at me. Then he continued singing, and I looked into his face. His face looked like the face of an angel; his eyes were pure and he was singing with his heart. I didn’t even know you could teach things like that.

My son would ask me so many questions about God, and I enjoyed answering them. I could tell that his heart was seeking after God. My husband and I read the book The Lamb (by John R. Cross) to my son, and the book clearly explained the gospel. It included a CD and beautiful illustrations explaining how Christ is our lamb, and what it means to need a lamb who can atone for sin. Anyway, we read the book to Bryan two different times so that he had a thorough grasp of what Christ really did for him. We led him to Christ in December 2006. Tears were streaming down my face, and I could feel the presence of the Spirit. I could tell that my husband was all choked up, too, but I’m sure he would never admit it. We had led our own child to the Lord, and it mattered. It meant a lot.

Through the years I have seen a steady growth of character in my son. One time I realized that he stopped asking me about God, and all he wanted to talk about was robots. I was chatting with him one day in a darkened room. I said, “You realize that when you love anything more than you love God, it is idolatry. It is exactly the same as bowing down to a golden cow.” He looked at me, and I could tell by his eyes that he felt convicted. He put the covers over his head and lay there in silence for quite a while. After what seemed like a long time, he had made a decision. “I’ve decided to never play with robots again. I need to get rid of my legos.” He was all choked up. He was only eight years old at the time. He had made his decision. He had crucified his desires and put Christ first no matter what the cost.

I said to him, “Bryan, you don’t need to give up your legos. God has provided legos for our family, and it’s okay to play with them. I just miss talking about God with you. I just felt that your heart was somewhere else.”

He looked relieved. “So I can keep my legos?”

“Of course! God provides all good things for us to enjoy.”

He walked out of the room praising God.

Predestination vs Free Will

Monday, November 15th, 2010

predestination-vs-free-willHere is a conversation I had with my son about predestination vs free will.

My son Bryan moved his arm and asked, “Did God move my arm?”

I was lying in bed, unaware that I would be discussing the heavy topic of predestination vs. free will. I answered, “You moved your own arm. You decided to move your arm, and then you moved it. That’s because you have free will. On the other hand, God holds all the atoms in the universe together, so God allowed you to move your arm. Apart from God you could not have moved your arm. In fact, God predestined before the foundation of the world that you would move your arm, and therefore you did it, probably so that we could have this conversation, and so that you would know God on a deeper level. Does that answer your question?”

“Yes,” he said simply.

After waiting awhile, he asked me other questions, and we talked about how, in the book of Job, God had control of Satan, but Satan had free will. This caused my son to want to read the book of Job. I told him I’d read it with him, and we had a wonderful one-on-one study.

What Love Meant

Wednesday, October 27th, 2010

what-love-meantThis is a humbling story about a toddler who taught me what love meant.

One morning when my oldest son was 3 years old, I was lying down, exhausted from potty training a boy who was making no progress. I was tired of cleaning up pee, and the smell of Lysol permeated the house. I was frustrated and angry with my son. I prayed that God would help me not to be so exasperated.

I looked at my son, who was sitting next to me on the bed. Despite how bad the morning had gone, I wanted my son to know that I loved him. I said, “I love you.”

He hugged me and said, “I love you, too.”

It occurred to me that he didn’t know what love meant. I asked him, “Do you know what love is?”

“Hugs.”

“It’s more than that,” I said. I tried to think of how to explain it, when I Corinthians 13 came to mind. “Love is patient…”

Suddenly my 3-year-old son recited the rest of the passage, which he had learned when he was 2. “Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

There was a lump in my throat as I fought back tears. I felt convicted by the Word of God out of the mouth of my toddler. I knew I had not shown love that morning to my son, that I had disobeyed the majority of that passage. I realized that my “I love you” meant nothing because I hadn’t done it. I resolved within my heart that I would change.

Out of the mouths of babes…

Put Yourself Above Your Kids?

Friday, July 30th, 2010

put-yourself-above-your-kidsPut yourself above your kids? It’s the second time I’ve heard that God is first, husband second, me third, and children fourth. Nobody has said why this is the case, so I thought about it.

At first it sounded weird, but then it actually made sense. If my body belongs to my husband and I don’t take care of my body, I’m not taking care of my husband.

If I spend all my energy homeschooling the children and have nothing left for my husband, my husband is not first before the children. If I do less with my children, and I do something that will refresh me or give me energy, I will not only take care of myself, but I’m a better wife.

So homeschool mothers really must prioritize themselves above their children (or homeschooling) in order to be what their husbands need them to be: a fun playmate who actually has something to give. In turn, if we are refreshed, we will be able to homeschool with a joyful heart instead of a weary one.