Posts Tagged ‘prayer’

Why Husbands and Wives Should Pray Together

Wednesday, February 5th, 2014

why-husbands-and-wives-should-pray-togetherHave you ever wondered why husbands and wives should pray together? It will deepen your marriage; that’s why!

1. The most important reason to pray together is to be one with your spouse. If husbands and wives do not pray together, they are not one spiritually. God desires the husband to lead the wife spiritually in Ephesians 5:22-27, where the husband is supposed to wash his wife with the Word, to present her holy and blameless to God. How can he do that without communicating to God in her presence?

2. We reflect Christ and the church when we pray with our spouse. The husband is the personification of Christ, and the wife is the personification of the church. The physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy experienced between a husband and wife is supposed to reflect the church’s relationship to Jesus, where we are one, and we allow Him to enter us and rule us, and He lays down His life for us because of His incredibly deep love for us.

3. Jesus wants us to have unity. Jesus wants us to be one with our spouse the same way that God the Father and God the Son are one. In John 17:11b, He says: “Holy Father, keep them in Your name, which You have given Me, that they may be one, even as we are one.” (ESV) Do you understand how incredible that oneness is? Both of you must be saved, and you need to love God with ALL your heart, soul, mind, and strength. Then God will purify and transform you to be more like Jesus. That’s how you are more and more one—because you are both more and more like Christ. Plus, selfishness is the root of all sin, and the more God purges you from sin, the more selfless you are, and the more capable you are of loving your spouse.

4. We are commanded within the body of Christ to pray for one another, and this includes your spouse. To not pray with your spouse is to declare that you are not comfortable with your spouse spiritually. But God can change that. If the reason you don’t pray with your spouse is that you don’t like other people to listen to your prayers, get over your fear of other people’s opinions. God commands you to pray out loud (James 5:16). Christ whipped people out of the Temple and said that His church would be a house of prayer. So prayer was the number one thing that Jesus said the church should be doing! If you are a brother and sister in Christ, you are the church. What He commands the church to do is what He commands every believer to do.

5. Praying will draw you closer to your spouse. I’m attracted to my husband’s soul when he is praying, and that transfers to better physical intimacy. Prayer cracks you open to the spiritual life of your spouse. It gives you a glimpse into his soul.

Why are godly men and women not praying together as husband and wife? Many times the reason is that their prayer lives are stagnant, and they don’t enjoy prayer. In this case, they don’t want their spouse to see through them, that they have stopped growing spiritually, and they just want to be comfortable instead of deepening their walk with God. Oh, the horror of stagnation! Force yourself to pray with your spouse if only to get yourself out of this stagnant cesspool of a lack of growth in Christ. Do not rest on your past laurels.

Stay tuned for “How to Get Your Husband to Pray with You,” practical ways to transition into praying together to experience spiritual oneness, plus a free prayer audio to show exactly how to do this, and why you should do this!

How Do You Teach Your Child to Pray?

Friday, January 31st, 2014

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How do you teach your child to pray?

  • If the child is young, you can have the child repeat simple phrases about real issues. For example, “Please help me not to be selfish and to share with my sister.”
  • Give your children a good example yourself by praying in an honest way in front of them, without using lots of conventions and religious words that sound like God is unapproachable. Your kids become you; they will imitate how you pray.
  • Don’t be afraid to confess sin openly. Admit your own sin before God in your prayers, so that they learn how to confess sin openly without condemnation, expecting forgiveness and change in their lives.

What can you learn from children as they pray?

Jesus says we are to become like little children to enter the kingdom of heaven. (Matthew 18:1-6) What does this mean? What attributes do children display in their prayers?

  • How to be trusting
  • How to be open to God
  • How to be humble
  • How to have a wide-eyed wonder
  • How to adore God in a fresh way

How to Lead Your Children to the Lord

In the audio I share how my husband and I led each of our children to the Lord. We wanted to make sure that they understood their depravity before coming to Christ, so that they could understand why they needed a Savior. We didn’t want to just pray a prayer with them and give them a false sense of being saved when they weren’t. On the other hand, we didn’t want to block our children from coming to Christ. After all, Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me.” (Matthew 19:14) That said, this is how we led each of our children to Christ:

I share each of these stories with you because maybe one of your children falls under one of the personalities listed above. For example, what do you do when you have a good kid who can’t see that he is a sinner? On the other hand, how to you reach a child who is ruled by anger? Is it possible to teach spiritual things without speaking a word? Hear the full stories in this powerful audio:

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Praying with Other Believers

Friday, January 24th, 2014

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Praying with other believers is different than praying alone, and Scripture says it can be more powerful. In Acts 12, Peter had been arrested because he was in jail, and the believers were praying together for his deliverance in the home of Mary, the mother of John Mark. A servant girl named Rhoda heard a knocking on the door, and she saw Peter, who had miraculously escaped prison with the assistance of an angel. This was a direct answer to their prayer, but this servant girl was so shocked that God answered, that she left Peter standing there at the gate. The other believers said she was out of her mind, but they eventually went to check at the gate, and sure enough, Peter was standing there!

Everyone knows the Scripture: “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Christ Himself says this in Matthew 18:20. James 5:16 says that we must pray for one another, so that we may be healed. This is praying out loud, because we are to confess our sins one to another to pray, and there is no way that we would hear the other person’s confession of their sins if they weren’t saying it out loud. In other words, we are commanded by God to pray aloud for each other, and we are promised to be heard when this happens.

So how is praying with others different than praying alone?

  • Praying alone is more personal, and you don’t have to think about other people listening to it.
  • You can cry, be angry, or show other emotion in your private prayers that might feel out of place in front of others.
  • Other people aren’t distracting you, so it is less likely to be pretentious.
  • On the other hand, it’s easier to focus on prayer without your mind drifting when you are praying with another believer.
  • Scripture commands both types of prayer, and I’ve sometimes not been able to get rid of a fog, a circumstance, or a sin without somebody else praying for me. In other words, after praying alone, I’m sometimes not released from a struggle that I’m having. This is when we need others to pray for us the most.

Praying with others has benefits that sometimes don’t come when you pray alone. What are some of the benefits of praying with others?

  • Other people have different insights than you do, and you can pray more effectively because of this.
  • Your shared love for the person you’re praying for deepens your prayer. You might begin to feel empathy where there was no empathy before.
  • You can bounce back and forth in your prayers, going deeper into one prayer request.
  • Your burden is lifted, and you have more joy. Scripture says that when we pray for each other, we are healed.
  • They can keep you accountable for sin.
  • You’re not usually as rushed when you pray with others, because you are putting time aside to pray.
  • You become aware of people’s prayer requests, and you experience spiritual joy when their prayers are answered through you.

How do you overcome the fear of praying aloud in front of others?

  • Realize that it’s a sin to care more about other people’s opinions than God’s. Fear of man brings a snare. (Proverbs 29:25)
  • God commands you to pray with others. Not praying with others is disobedience. (James 5:16)
  • When you stumble in your prayers in front of others, it is refreshing and sincere. People don’t care as much about that, as about the fact that you cared enough to pray with them.

Here is the prayer audio that will help you as you pray for others:

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Controlling Your Mind

Friday, January 17th, 2014

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The only way to conquer sin in your life is to learn to control your mind. All sin begins in the mind. Understand that your mind has a doorway, and that you can close the door on any thought. You don’t have to think whatever thoughts come into your head. None of us should be ruled by our emotions or by random thoughts, but we are to be ruled by the Spirit.

Philippians 2:12-13 says, “Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.” (ESV) If you don’t assert your will over your thoughts, you are not actually working with God. Both you and God need to be working together to overcome sin. If you expect God to do everything when you aren’t even trying, you will be waiting in vain. You must seek God with all your heart and soul, forcing your will to do what’s right, and cry out to God. Then God does the miraculous work of transforming you in an impossible way.

Like I said, all sin starts in the mind, so if you can learn to “take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ” (II Corinthians 10:5), you will have victory over sin. I bear witness that this has been true in my own life many times, and many mature believers confirm that the same has happened to them. They overcome sin in miraculous ways when they take their thoughts captive.

In the audio, I describe several instances from my life where I took thoughts captive to overcome sin. Here are some supporting articles that describe two of these situations in more detail:

The boomerang verse I referred to in the audio: “Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.” Proverbs 13:3 NIV (I think there was a different verse that talked about gossip coming back on your own head, but I can’t find it! If you find it, please write it in the comments. It might not have been in Proverbs…)

Here is the next prayer audio in the Becoming a Prayer Warrior audio series: