You are Not Your Own

January 31st, 2012

you-are-not-you-ownI recently read an article where a woman cut her hair short because she was now a mom. Her husband hated her new haircut and was disappointed that his opinion didn’t matter whatsoever. The writer of the article said, “Grow up,” to this man. She wrote that there is nothing wrong with a mom looking like a mom, which translated means, go ahead and look frumpy because who the heck cares what your husband thinks. This entire mindset is sin.

Let me start by saying that my best friend from childhood is a woman. Let’s say I did something somewhat superficial that would affect her life, disregarding her opinion, even when she had to live with the ramifications of what I did. Then she asks me, “How come you didn’t even ask me?” and I answered, “Who cares what you think?” This would be disrespectful to my friend, who is a woman. How much more so if you’re doing this to your husband?

“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.” (I Corinthians 7:4)

At marriage, a woman’s body belongs to her husband, and a man’s body belongs to his wife. You don’t rule your own body, believe it or not. And it cuts both ways. Let’s say you don’t want your husband to have a long, scraggly beard that is smelly and disgusting. Because even though that is a superficial thing, it affects your attraction to your spouse.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not going to withdraw from my husband if he looks ugly. I’m not. And I’m not a superficial person. If he gets into a car crash and looks all mangled like a monster, I will love and cherish him and kiss his sweet face til the day I die. But that is no excuse for him to purposely look ugly for me.

You should also be willing to live with the consequences of your actions. The woman who cut her hair short and didn’t care what her husband thought now has to live with the fact that she is not as attractive to her husband. Likewise, if my husband shaves off the close clipped beard that I love, he is not as appealing to me, even though of course I will still love him. But the bedroom ought to matter. If the bedroom doesn’t matter to the woman, then her husband is not her priority. Her marriage will suffer because she doesn’t care about pleasing her husband, and her marriage has taken a back seat.

Awe and Reverence in Prayer

January 30th, 2012

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“Worship the Lord with reverence, and rejoice with trembling.” Psalm 2:11

“If He is so great, place your mouth in the dust before Him, for He is the most powerful of all kings… Heaven obeys Him cheerfully, hell trembles at His frown, and earth is constrained to yield Him worship, willingly or unwillingly. His power can create or destroy. My soul, be sure that when you draw near to the Omnipotent, who is a consuming fire, put your shoes from off your feet and worship Him with lowliest humility.” -Spurgeon

God is everything, and we are nothing. Until we understand that, we will not pray the way we ought to pray.

“For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.” Galatians 6:3

Read Isaiah 6:1-7, and it will put you in the right frame of mind. When Isaiah (or anyone else for that matter) was in the presence of God, he fell prostrate on the ground before God. Moses took off his sandals and smashed his face in the dirt before God. The wisest man of all time, King Solomon, said in his wisdom books that the bottom line was to “Fear God and keep His commandments.” Fear is reverence that involves trembling.

For some reason we see God as a big sweetie pie (which is also true), almost like a teddy bear. But He strikes people dead, and they fall down. Remember Ananias and Saphira? God’s fire also lashed out and killed lots of Israelites when they were complaining in the wilderness. And Jesus rides a white horse in Revelation, with a scythe in His hand – everyone in that field will experience terror when He strikes them dead. God is dangerous.

God is not to be trifled with. Either He rules or He doesn’t. Eventually everyone will bow the knee, whether they like it or not, because He is indeed God. For every knee shall bow, and every tongue shall confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. (Philippians 2:10)

When we pray, we should have lowly reverence and complete submission. And yes, we can walk boldly to the throne of God to receive help in time of need (Hebrews 4:16), but this does not negate the absolute, staggering power of the Creator of the universe, and our need to hold the Lord God in reverence.

Humor Articles

January 27th, 2012

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If you are looking for a laugh, come read some of these humor articles. Hopefully you’ll fall over laughing…

Growing Older Humor
You Know You’re Growing Older When…

Marriage Humor
Worst Valentines Day Gifts
The Story Behind the Love Story
Feeling Warm and Toasty

Parenting Humor
You Know You’re the Mother of Boys When…
Floor Coffee: The New Trend
We Don’t Need a Cart

Homeschool Humor
Toy Castle Adventure
Only a Homeschooler

Travel Humor
Susan’s Wacky Travel Tips (Airplane Edition)
Susan’s Wacky Travel Tips (Road Trip Edition)

Toilet Humor
Top 10 Ways Your House Falls Apart

Random Humor
The Exploded Cauliflower
Top 10 Reasons Sickness Isn’t So Bad

Business Humor
Give Them a Chance
The Conference Comedy
Workshop Went Well (Miraculously)

Christmas Humor
Susan’s Wacky Gingerbread House Tips
Cookie Nativity Scene Fiasco
Stealing Ornaments and Christmas Memories
World’s Worst Stocking Stuffers

Are Coupons Worth the Hassle?

January 26th, 2012

I’ve heard people say thare-coupons-worth-the-hassleat by clipping coupons, you can save up to $100 a month on your grocery bill. Back when I had no money at all and couldn’t use my time to earn any income, I learned how to do coupons just to survive. And what people say is true, but it is also tedious. Right now in my life, if I can spend an hour recording a workshop instead of clipping coupons, that hour will yield me money for the rest of my life instead of a few measly dollars for just one week.

When you’re desperate to feed your kids, you’re not as irritated by having to clip coupons. Ideally, you want the item to go on sale before you use the coupon. This way you can sometimes get the item for free. Strangely, sometimes I even came out ahead, with the grocery store paying me to get the item. I know it seems weird, but the manufacturer pays some of it, so the grocery store still gets money even when you didn’t pay a penny.

are-coupons-worth-the-hassle-2Coupons expire. And if you’re not a die-hard coupon person, if you’ve already spent money on gasoline to get to the store, you might as well use all your coupons on the spot and be done with it. To wait for every single thing to be on sale would take forever, and who wants to do that? Not me.

Instead of using coupons now, I just follow the major sales in grocery stores, called loss leaders. For example, a local grocery store has a cereal sale where Cheerios and other well-known cereals sell for $1.69 a box. I buy 70 boxes. Yes, you heard me right. If you find the rock bottom price, stock up. Your grocery bill will be lower for the next few months because you are buying no cereal. You’re saving a ton of money.

Despite the fact that I don’t do heavy couponing any more, I still use coupons to my advantage with virtually no work on my part:

1. I use Costco coupons. While my husband drives to Costco, I flip through the booklet of coupons we’re sent in the mail, and I tear them out. These are coupons for toilet paper and other things we buy all the time, and it’s always several dollars off, not just 25 cents. And since I’m sitting in the car doing nothing anyway, it doesn’t take up time.

2. Resale shop coupons are fun. There are five resale shops in my neighborhood that are quite good. (I realize that Goodwill-type stores in some towns are nasty, icky, and musty, but other cities have awesome, expensive name-brand stuff for a dollar or two.) Whenever I have a coupon for a resale store, I use it. The item I’m buying, like a new-looking jacket for my son for $4, ends up costing only $2 with a 50% off coupon. If a whole stack of clothes are 50% off, you can get a fresh wardrobe for your children for the new school year for just pennies to the dollar.

3. Coupons for going to an expensive place are also worth using. Places with roller coasters, for example, often have coupons for $10 off. Sometimes it’s buy one, get one free, and if the ticket to get in is $38, you’ve just had fun for a lot less money if you wanted to go there anyway.

These three types of coupons (Costco, resale shops, and expensive places) are the only coupons I do now. So to answer the initial question, “Are coupons worth the hassle?”, when I had babies and toddlers and was in a mental fog and had no money; yes, it was. But now that I’m not in that situation, my answer is no, they’re not worth the bother.