Grading for Homeschoolers

November 7th, 2011

I received an e-mail from a woman whose children were early elementary and preschool:

My question is simply what do you do about grading? I have heard some parents don’t feel the need to grade their children and that grading is governmentally instituted anyway. But I do wonder if the children aren’t graded, how will we make out their transcripts?

I would greatly appreciate your advice on this matter. Thank you so much for being of assistance to homeschooling families through your blog, videos, etc.

Here was my response to her e-mail:

What most people don’t realize is that transcripts are not necessary until high school, because you need them to get into college. Certainly, even the public schools don’t give grades to a 5-year-old. They put “Satisfactory” or “Excellent” or whatever. Elementary school doesn’t need grades. But if you wanted to make a transcript just for fun, you could list all the subjects you taught, and write down how you thought your child did at the end of each year.

For example, my kids are way above average in every subject, so if I was inventing a transcript, I would make a list of classes and put A’s on the other side. It’s that easy. If they mess up on some of their math, I might put a B in that subject. Right now my older two sons are doing Teaching Textbooks for math, and the computer grades their work automatically. So they do get grades for math, even though I never use them.

[For people who are not homeschoolers who are reading this, my 11-year-old, for example, is doing pre-algebra and getting A’s. If he got B’s, I would write that down on a transcript, but the fact that he’s 3 years ahead in math would indicate that if he was in a school institution at his age level, he would be getting A’s. So all this talk of grades is completely irrelevant to a homeschooler until high school.]

[Even if your homeschooled child is behind, grades are irrelevant. As a public school teacher, I had an entire room of children who were behind except for one or two. I’m not joking. Our school system spits out functionally illiterate people. At home, the parent is tutoring that child, and the child is progressing as fast as is humanly possible in their particular circumstances. By the way, as a teacher, I was forced to “pass” children to the next grade level, even though their grades showed failure. Grades are a sham.]

As a teacher, the reason I gave grades was to show the students and their parents how they were doing. If they didn’t pay attention at all in class, they wouldn’t know the material. This doesn’t happen in homeschool. I’m looking straight at my child, and I don’t move on until my child has grasped the material. This would be an A. It’s like tutoring really. The parent is you, so you don’t need to show yourself what your child is doing. You already know based on the work your child is doing, and on their knowledge that they have about a particular subject.

Fun Autumn Activities for Children

November 5th, 2011

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Here are some fun autumn activities for children, including crafts, baking, and field trips:

Arts and Crafts
Autumn Stained Glass Leaves
Squash Creatures
Autumn Leaf Rubbings
Autumn Mobile
Making a Scarecrow
Twig Art
Grain Art
Thankfulness Tree
Autumn Table Decorations
Thankful Cards

Baking and Food
Turkey and Rice Casserole
Apple Crisp
Maple Leaf Cookies
Nut Identification
Spice Chart
Vegetable Creatures
Flavored Popcorn

Autumn Exercise
Climbing Trees
Jumping in the Leaves

Field Trips
Going to the State Fair
Visiting a Farm

Autumn Videos
Splashing in Puddles
Decorating Walking Sticks

Articles about Christian Living

November 3rd, 2011

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Here are some articles about Christian living from my own life:

Church

 

Prayer

 

Anger

 

Death

 

Walking in the Freedom of the Lord

 

How to Be Saved / Conversion

 

Parenting

 

Finding a Mentor

 

Proverbs 31 Woman

 

The Power of Words

 

Using Time Productively

 

Spiritual Warfare

 

Suffering

 

Thankfulness

 

 

Church Discipline: Third Degree

November 2nd, 2011

church-discipline-3“And if he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax-gatherer.” (Matthew 18:3 NASB)

This Scripture is one of the harshest Scriptures in the entire Bible, and many people hate and disagree with this verse. Let me tell you, I have seen this verse hideously distorted, and the pain that it has caused people who are dear to me through its misapplication has been unbelievable, especially if first and second degree has never occurred. Yes, four times in my life I have personally witnessed third degree happening BEFORE first and second degree. Never, EVER do this to people, because they might leave God forever because of the grievous sin of the church against them. At best, it leaves a permanent scar, after causing the sweet Christian to crumple up in so much pain that he doesn’t know where to turn. Because, you see, his heart was open to God, and you committed spiritual capital punishment against him before he even knew what he did.

God has created third degree church discipline as the spiritual capital punishment for the vilest offenders who have hearts of stone and continue to refuse to repent. That is why God has created it to be so unbelievably painful. For example, if a man is unfaithful to his wife, and several people have confronted him already and he refuses to repent, he needs to be thrown out of the church. Maybe if this happens, he will realize, “Oh wait a minute. My sin has more ramifications than I thought. What I justified in my heart is actually wrong and has deeply wounded my wife. The church is holding me accountable for this, and rightly so.” Then he comes to his senses, like the prodigal in the pig slop.

Stealing is another reason to throw someone out of the church. But it’s better just to send them to jail. If someone is harming other people, this is the only reason I believe that a person should be thrown out of the church.

If someone has an “attitude,” that is NOT something that I believe someone should be thrown out of the church for. For example, someone was accused of pride. Okay… If you’ve already confronted them about the ugliness of their sin, at this point, just pray for them. After all, EVERYONE has too much pride. Heart issues are NEVER something that you should be thrown out of church for.

I would also like to mention informal third degree, because it happens all the time, and it is just as painful as being thrown out of the church. This is when people in a position of power, usually the pastor, an elder, or a Bible study leader, block a person from meeting with other believers because of a perceived sin. If the person in power has never confronted that person gently one-on-one, he has no right to throw him out of a Bible study. The guy doesn’t even know he did something wrong, for crying out loud.

If the first time a person is confronted includes the eldership, and it is only something based on heresay, this is completely bewildering to the person being attacked. That person can’t defend themselves and try to understand the situation because it is considered insubordination to the pastor. But he has NEVER heard of his sin. How then can he understand what he did, if everyone is ganging up against him and no one will listen? I’m telling you, this is demonic. It causes the internal destruction of the church. Most people can’t survive this. They will leave the church and never go back.