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Trash Your Goals: You’re Going Too Fast

Wednesday, January 4th, 2012

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If you set too many goals for yourself, your life will be like a fast train, where you look out at the beautiful scenery, but it’s just a blur. Soon you want to slow down the train, but you don’t want to lose momentum.

It’s like you’ve set yourself a pace that is impossible to maintain. If you don’t slow down, the train will continue picking up speed until it crashes.

Even if the train doesn’t crash, do you really want your life to be a blur? Wouldn’t it be better to have one to three goals that are actually biblical, and scrap the rest? To heck with productivity, if you are an overachiever who can’t savor life. If you fall into this category, scrap all your goals and decide to live this next year by living in the moment and abiding in Christ. Get off the train, feel the cool grass between your toes, and have a lovely picnic with your family. Metaphorically speaking.

If you insist on being highly productive, consider this: Even if you’re productive and accomplishing tons, what does it matter? Unless it’s exactly, precisely in the center of the will of God, your “accomplishments” will have no lasting impact and will be for nothing.

Why is your life going at such a frantic, crazy pace? Is there a reason? Did God actually lead you to do each thing that you are doing? Or do you just live a blurry life because you can’t say no to anything, so you’re stuck with too many commitments that God never led you into?

If you set goals for yourself that you never reach, maybe you are setting the wrong goals. I know a woman who set herself the goal of losing 100 pounds last year. Do you think she reached her goal, especially considering that she was doing a bazillion other things? No, she did not. I set myself the goal of losing 17 pounds, and as much as I’ve exercised this year (more than ever in my life), I did NOT meet my goal. So was the goal worth having? I say yes. Because it made me a healthier person, and my husband noticed and smiled. I also felt prompted by God to do this, and it has helped my marriage.

So I must stop for a second and say that the only exception to scrapping your goals (besides abiding in Christ) is weight loss and fitness. If you’re putting effort into maintaining the body that God has given you because it’s the temple of the Holy Spirit, and you want to have more energy, anything you do towards this end is not wasted. Even if you gain the weight back later, it’s not wasted that you exercised today, because today you have more energy to pour into life, so it was worth it today.

Some people think you should set your goals high and shoot for the stars. If your goals are too low, then you will never achieve anything big. People, goals are not promises. Do you realize that? Goals are something to put up above and ahead of you, so that you know where you’re going. Please consult God when making goals. Why waste a lot of time on something that wasn’t God’s goal? Then who is glorified? No one really. It’s just time wasted.

Did I Meet Last Year’s Resolutions?

Friday, December 30th, 2011

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What’s the point of making resolutions if we don’t actually follow through? Most people can’t even remember what their resolutions were. I don’t usually make resolutions, but last year I was challenged to make a vision board with goals that I had for myself for the new year. So let’s see if I did them.

  1. I want to continue drawing closer to God, yielding to His Spirit moment by moment.” I’ve actually done this, more this year than ever before. I would still love to feel the presence of God in greater measure. There have been times in my life where the presence of the Holy Spirit was so intense. Unfortunately those were times when I had the greatest need for Him. In other words, it seems like suffering brings on the Holy Spirit because I’m more likely to fling my soul in His direction. But I’m reluctant to pray for suffering. There must be a way to walk in the presence of God in great measure without all the suffering. If I find the answer, I’ll let you know.
  2. I would like to go on more dates with my husband this year.” Technically, this did not happen. Sometimes our dates were separated by a month or two. Then in September we signed our children up for Awana, and Tuesday nights are now our date nights.
  3. I want to stop yelling at my children. I’ve grown a lot in this area, but by the end of the year, I want to be at a point where I never yell whatsoever. Wouldn’t that be cool?” Umm… I have no idea if I’ve grown in this area. To “never yell whatsoever” I think was a bit ambitious. I can’t remember the last time I yelled at the kids, but I’m sure I have.
  4. I want to listen to my children more, to understand their heartbeat and deepen their walk with God.” I did this, but I probably could have done it more. I need to intentionally spend time one-on-one with my kids in deep conversation. Their time with me is so short. I’ll blink, and they will be grown. Just watch.
  5. I don’t want to live a virtual life. I want my life to be real.” Well, I took the summer off from the internet. So that’s something. But I’ve decided that people online are also real people. I just want to yield to God and ask Him what I ought to be doing. It’s not a sin to be on the computer unless it’s taking away from something I’m supposed to be doing.
  6. I want to live in the moment and to enjoy my husband and children, really enjoy them.” Yes, I did this! I want so much to continue to do this.
  7. I’d like to spend more time in the garden and make it look prettier, so that we have a peaceful haven just outside our own house.” Umm… No. I didn’t do this whatsoever. In fact, I let the garden die completely. The sprinkler system broke right before the Seattle and Portland conferences, and my husband said to me, “Either I fix the sprinkler system, or we cut your DVD’s.” That was a no-brainer. Bye bye, garden.
  8. I want to lose 17 pounds.” Nope. But I did something better than that. I learned to love my body. I started Zumba this year and have done it consistently. I’ve had more muscle tone this year than ever, and I’m 41. I finally accept my body, but I also exercise consistently. I haven’t weighed myself in a long time. How about that? I don’t care that I’m not perfect. I feel comfortable in my own skin, and that’s saying a lot.
  9. I want to laugh more.” I’ve cried a lot this year, but I think I’ve also laughed more. I discovered that I enjoy writing humor.
  10. I would love, love, love to have a second honeymoon with my darling husband this coming summer. I’d like to go to the Bahamas.” Yes. I don’t know how in tarnation we pulled that off financially without going into debt. It was just a sweet miracle from God.

Visual Goals for the New Year

Saturday, January 1st, 2011

Last year I watched a YouTube video (made by my friend Beth Jones) of how to make a vision board. She basically showed how to cut out pictures from magazines to symbolize goals you have for yourself for the new year. She says that people accomplish their goals when they can see what their goals are. So I decided to make a display of my visual goals for the new year.

  1. I want to continue drawing closer to God, yielding to His Spirit moment by moment.
  2. I would like to go on more dates with my husband this year.
  3. I want to stop yelling at my children. I’ve grown a lot in this area, but by the end of the year, I want to be at a point where I never yell whatsoever. Wouldn’t that be cool?
  4. I want to listen to my children more, to understand their heartbeat and deepen their walk with God.
  5. I found a magazine picture that said, “Don’t let your virtual life distract you from the real thing.” I want to live, to really live. My business could easily take over every spare moment of my day, and I don’t want to live a virtual life. I want my life to be real.
  6. I saw another picture in a magazine that had a woman holding a clock. It said, “Instead of racing against the clock, slow down and savor everyday moments.” I want to live in the moment and to enjoy my husband and children, really enjoy them.
  7. I have a picture of a garden because I’d like to spend more time in the garden and make it look prettier, so that we have a peaceful haven just outside our own house.
  8. I have a picture of a family riding bicycles to symbolize the fact that I want to lose 17 pounds. I was my ideal weight last January (and my whole life I’ve been skinny), but somehow turning 40 has changed my body. Or maybe sorrow did it. Regardless, I will exercise more, eat right,  and go on  the 12K marathon in May.
  9. I want to laugh more.
  10. Yes, I have a picture of money. The expenditure of my business this coming year, for vendor tables at conferences,  to powerpoint equipment, to burning my DVD’s and CD’s, all this will cost over $2,000. I must make over this amount just to make ends meet and not have my family damaged financially from my business. I would love, love, love to have a second honeymoon with my darling husband this coming summer. I’d like to go to the Bahamas. Our real honeymoon was a disaster because of the sin of another man, and it doesn’t seem fair that our honeymoon was spoiled by the rapist. I just want my honeymoon back. The first money I make from my business (after tithing to God) will be a trip to the Bahamas! (I might have to put this off until next year, but I included it in my vision board, because I want it to come true so badly.)

Goals for my Children

Monday, August 16th, 2010

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The importance of goals in homeschooling cannot be overestimated. If you have no goals, you don’t know where you are going. It’s important to have long-term as well as short-term goals. What do you want your children to accomplish before they leave home at age 18? A goals list for each subject area will help you do long-range planning, and it can help you eliminate busywork in your homeschool that does not contribute to your goals. Short-range goals might include what you want your child to accomplish in any given year. I have included a list of the long-range goals that I have for my own children. I hope it is helpful as you formulate your own goals.

Bible

  1. Understand the Gospel and be saved.
  2. Learn obedience and self-control.
  3. Grow in their knowledge and love of Christ.
  4. Have a vivid knowledge of Bible stories.
  5. Be able to take notes and learn during a sermon.
  6. Learn the great hymns of the faith.
  7. Learn how to use Bible concordance, atlas, dictionary, handbook.
  8. Understand and experience Jewish traditions and holidays.
  9. Memorize Scripture and the books of the Bible.

Math

  1. Be able to do quick mental math (add, subtract, multiply, and divide).
  2. Have good estimation skills and practical math.
  3. Have financial savvy; budgeting and business skills.
  4. Be able to do math up through calculus, if needed for future job.

Language

  1. Be able to read fluently with understanding.
  2. Write effectively and vividly in all forms of writing.
  3. Give a speech presentation effectively.
  4. Be exposed to drama and theater.
  5. Have sharp listening skills and reasoning skills.
  6. Understand basic logic and have critical thinking skills.
  7. Read and discuss a wide range of classical literature.

Science

  1. Have thorough knowledge and appreciation of God’s creation.
  2. Understand scientific principles including chemistry and physics.
  3. Have earth science and biology knowledge.
  4. Exposure to evolution vs. creation science. Able to logically defend the faith.

History/Geography

  1. Know the states and capitals, and locate states.
  2. Know the location of all countries on earth.
  3. Be exposed to travel in other states and countries.
  4. Understand the flow of history and when major events took place; vividly picture all major time periods.
  5. Understand the “why” behind major events. See God’s hand in His dealings with mankind.

Foreign Language

  1. Exposure to Hebrew and Greek.
  2. Intermediate to advanced knowledge of Spanish.

Art

  1. Have basic drawing skills, painting, and crafting skills.
  2. Have knowledge of great works of art and artists from history.
  3. Exposure to art museums.

Music

  1. Knowledge of great classical composers and music.
  2. Carry a beat (clapping).
  3. Exposure to symphony, jazz festivals, etc.
  4. Sing on key and possibly harmonize.
  5. Learn how to read basic music notes (piano).
  6. Take instrument lessons if interested.

PE/Health

  1. Learn about healthy nutrition and exercise.
  2. Learn how to swim, or at least tread water.
  3. Exposure to sports and other physical activities.
  4. Learn about the digestive system, skeletal system, muscular system, respiratory system, etc.