Sexual Purity for Teen Boys


If you are concerned about sexual purity for teen boys as a parent in our day and age, you are not alone. Sexual sin is rampant in our culture, and things are getting worse as internet porn shows more and more violent sexual actions against women to be desirable. How is a young man to keep his way pure? By keeping it according to God’s Word. Hal and Melanie Young have just made this task easier for Christian parents by writing their new book Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

Everything is covered in this book, from pornography to masturbation to sexual perversion to how to find a good wife. How to regain purity is also discussed. Everything is spoken of in a clean, frank way that is necessary for addressing these topics. The book is also thin enough to be read in one sitting. One of my teen sons finished it in two hours one morning. Another son spent two days reading it. Nothing came as a surprise to my sons because I’ve addressed sexual issues head-on every time they have been mentioned in Scripture or in literature over the years.


Dr. Tedd Tripp, author of Shepherding a Child’s Heart (my favorite parenting book that addresses heart issues instead of outer behavior) has read the book and recommends it, if you need the endorsement of a well-known Christian speaker.

For every Christian mother who has wrung her hands, wondering if her son may be viewing pornography behind her back or with friends, this book will address this awkward conversation so that your son doesn’t have to feel weird talking about this to his mother.


I praise God for a husband who was able to have the “birds and bees” conversation with our sons when they were twelve. Each of our sons heard about sex first from his own father instead of his peers, and it was mentioned as something you were only supposed to do with your spouse. This is one reason many people homeschool their kids, to control the amount of sexual smut that comes in from public schooled peers. But you can’t shelter your teens forever, no matter how much you try, especially when they leave home for college. Our sons must make up their minds to be sexually pure before marriage BEFORE they leave home.

Our teen boys must learn self-control before they face the world on their own. They MUST. We cannot leave this to chance and hope for the best.

I met Hal and Melanie a few years ago when they spoke at a homeschool conference here in Spokane. They are the real deal, people who love and honor God wholeheartedly. If you are going to buy the book, please buy it from their website to bless them : Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

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16 Responses to “Sexual Purity for Teen Boys”

  1. This sounds like a really great resource. In a world with increasingly more access to not only bad content, but wrong thinking, this couldn’t have come at a better time!

    • Susan says:

      Exactly! Wrong thinking is hard to dislodge after it has gained a foothold. It’s better to begin with correct thinking and know right from wrong.

  2. Andrea says:

    Prov. 22:6 – “train up a child”…” – not in the ways of the world, but in the ways of God!

  3. What a great idea as a way to address purity with your children. As a homeschool mom, I’ve already started laying foundations for purity and self-respect for her body and future marriage in how we talk to her about her body now. It is so hard to avoid the smut but we can learn what a God says about clothes and kissing and such first.

    • Susan says:

      To lay a godly foundation is essential in today’s corrupt culture. I’m glad that you are pro-actively laying that foundation in your daughter’s life.

  4. As a sexual abuse survivor, my views on sex were so skewed. It took me a long time to lay down a foundation that would not crumble underneath me, but I found an incredible counselor who helped me through a very difficult time. It was important for me to have the talk with my daughter very early on and explain to her about what pure and acceptable.

    • Susan says:

      It’s hard to have a healthy and godly view of this area of our lives if we have experienced sexual abuse. Thankfully God is able to heal and restore us and enable us to not walk in sorrow the rest of our lives. Men who abuse have no idea how damaging their behavior is to the souls of those they abuse. May God have mercy to convict them of their sin before it’s too late for them to seek repentance! God will definitely bring them to justice.

  5. A very brave and essential subject for you to write about. It’s a huge concern for parents, the situation is far worse from when I was growing up and that was bad enough. What an amazing book for all Christian parents to purchase.

    • Susan says:

      Our culture is getting worse and worse because of the media influence. It definitely should be a concern for parents. This book addresses the issues that are hard to talk about for parents, with purity and frankness.

  6. Kristi says:

    This sounds like a fantastic resource. It is so important to discuss this with our children because if we don’t then we let others fill in what is right and wrong in this area and that can be very dangerous.

    • Susan says:

      We definitely do not want the peers of our teens telling our kids about right and wrong. This must be established through God’s Word from the very beginning!

  7. I’ll be honest, this is one of those conversations I am not at all excited to have, but I know it needs to be had! My boys are still very young so we will be slowly laying an age appropriate and God-honoring foundation on this top as they grow. But I LOVE the idea of having a book like this to help us through the process when they are older.

    • Susan says:

      The book makes the subject much easier to approach, and if the kids have questions, they can ask us. This way they know that the subject is not taboo. Because most parents shy away from the topic, the kids pick up the information elsewhere, and that is what we want to avoid!

  8. Terri says:

    Great book. Im going to share with my sister for her son

    • Susan says:

      This book is especially good for boys, as they are visual and accidentally might see something online that is inappropriate. I have trained my sons to look away immediately so that the images don’t go into their minds.

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