Posts Tagged ‘purity’

Sexual Purity for Teen Boys

Monday, February 20th, 2017


If you are concerned about sexual purity for teen boys as a parent in our day and age, you are not alone. Sexual sin is rampant in our culture, and things are getting worse as internet porn shows more and more violent sexual actions against women to be desirable. How is a young man to keep his way pure? By keeping it according to God’s Word. Hal and Melanie Young have just made this task easier for Christian parents by writing their new book Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

Everything is covered in this book, from pornography to masturbation to sexual perversion to how to find a good wife. How to regain purity is also discussed. Everything is spoken of in a clean, frank way that is necessary for addressing these topics. The book is also thin enough to be read in one sitting. One of my teen sons finished it in two hours one morning. Another son spent two days reading it. Nothing came as a surprise to my sons because I’ve addressed sexual issues head-on every time they have been mentioned in Scripture or in literature over the years.


Dr. Tedd Tripp, author of Shepherding a Child’s Heart (my favorite parenting book that addresses heart issues instead of outer behavior) has read the book and recommends it, if you need the endorsement of a well-known Christian speaker.

For every Christian mother who has wrung her hands, wondering if her son may be viewing pornography behind her back or with friends, this book will address this awkward conversation so that your son doesn’t have to feel weird talking about this to his mother.


I praise God for a husband who was able to have the “birds and bees” conversation with our sons when they were twelve. Each of our sons heard about sex first from his own father instead of his peers, and it was mentioned as something you were only supposed to do with your spouse. This is one reason many people homeschool their kids, to control the amount of sexual smut that comes in from public schooled peers. But you can’t shelter your teens forever, no matter how much you try, especially when they leave home for college. Our sons must make up their minds to be sexually pure before marriage BEFORE they leave home.

Our teen boys must learn self-control before they face the world on their own. They MUST. We cannot leave this to chance and hope for the best.

I met Hal and Melanie a few years ago when they spoke at a homeschool conference here in Spokane. They are the real deal, people who love and honor God wholeheartedly. If you are going to buy the book, please buy it from their website to bless them : Love, Honor, and Virtue: Gaining or Regaining a Biblical Attitude Toward Sexuality.

The Story is in the Wallet

Monday, February 21st, 2011


Before I send my daughter off to college, I will teach her a trick that will save her a lot of heartache. I’m sure that at first you’ll gasp at what I did back when I was in my mid-twenties and I had no potential suitors. Men were asking me out every week, and I wanted a quick way to weed out the losers.

I riffled through their wallets.

But I had their full permission. How did I get permission? By now you know me well enough that you should know I never pulled their wallet out of their back pocket. Oh, no. I never let them get that close. I waited until he paid for dinner. When his wallet was out, I asked if I could see his wallet.

What made the man say yes? (I never had a man say no.) To diffuse the awkward situation, smile sweetly and make your eyes dance. Say please if you have to. He will take it as flirtation. Since he asked you out, he’s obviously interested in you. Let this give you the confidence you need to pull this off.

Once he hands you the wallet, be quick about it. You’re looking for three things:

  1. A picture of a girl. This is a sure indication that he’s not ready to move on. He’s still in love with that person, even if he denies it. If the man tells you it’s his sister, he’s a liar. No one keeps a picture of his sister in his back pocket.
  2. A condom. If I saw a condom, the date was over. He didn’t care about my purity.
  3. Number of credit cards. If he has 10 credit cards, this indicates that he’s bad with money. One or two is ideal. Amount of cash is no indication of character. Sometimes more cash indicates that he uses cash rather than credit to buy things, which indicates good money sense.

Scripture tells us to be wise as serpents, innocent as doves. I’m telling you this to help your daughters preserve their purity and not get their hearts broken. Do you actually want your daughter to walk into a room alone, with a man who has a condom in his pocket? Didn’t think so.